Well, we’re Guerrilla, aren’t we. So you wouldn’t expect any of the usual New Year New You stuff. I’ve never made New Year Resolutions. In the same way, I’ve never waited until Monday to start a diet, or taken part in dry January or grown a moustache in November (I do that all year round ;-)). But even so, this time always feels like an opportunity for me to think about new beginnings. The question I wrangle with, is why begin in January? And why are overt gestures necessary to make seemingly epic life adjustments.
I’m talking about goals here. The grand prize of some coaching practices. We’ve heard the spiel: Think of a big goal you ‘d like to achieve. Break it down into baby steps. Take the baby steps. Seek accountability and voila you head towards your destination fixed, sorted and ebullient from putting a big tick on the ‘to do’ list.
The thing for me is … there’s always the next thing on the list. The list never whittles down. My life could be boiled down to one long tick list of destinations and achievements. What about today? I’m alive NOW. A goal presumes that the actual good bit of lives won’t start until we get there. And perish the thought, if the goal doesn’t come to fruition. We are all aware of the 80/20 rule. Oh my goodness! The judgement ... that open invitation to my inner critic to have her field day. I need that like a hole in the head!
Can you live a goal-less life? And, if you didn’t have any goals, ever, would your life grind to a halt? And that’s it for me. It absolutely hasn’t. I do stuff and sometimes I don’t do stuff. I’m just living and the beauty of living is being present and learning as I go. The big plus is I can ebb and flow, go forwards, backwards, change direction, stand still. All of that is great for me. It’s exciting. Even more exciting than putting a tick in the achievement by 2020 box ;-).
Happy New Year.
“Everything will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, it’s not the end” John Lennon
Thanks to resident Guerrilla Barry for kicking us off with our first blog. Amongst all the Coaching and People Development we do, we're taking on Identity Coaching as our personal crusade. It'll all make sense when you've read the blog but in a nutshell ... why not live the life you deserve to live? Be the person you are? Everybody else is taken.